Goals To Enhance Performance
Some of you probably know that I’m now learning to do what ANTHONY ROBBINS does. His selfless generosity, insightful understanding, empowering methodology and energy for life, has inspired millions of people over the last 30 years, right around the globe.
For those who don’t yet know, Tony has advised Fortune 500 CEO’s, members of two royal families, major sports teams, professional and Olympic athletes, the British Parliament, Harvard Business School, the World Economic Forum and even the President of the United States, on the psychology of leadership, negotiations, personal and professional transformation, organizational turnaround and peak performance.
See an short example of his method of “strategic intervention” below.
MAKE A MONUMENTAL DECISION – When I first made the decision that I REALLY, REALLY wanted to be like Anthony Robbins and work with groups of thousands of people in order to empower change in their lives, I wondered how on earth this would ever be possible.
CREATE MOMENTUM – Within the first hour of making that decision, I’d found a course that had just become available on the internet where he was one of the faculty, teaching World-Class Intervention and Communication Skills, and even though a very clear sign on the website said that enrollments had closed for this particular training program, I contacted the organizers and strongly professed I’d do whatever it takes to be accepted, and to learn all I could to enable me to reach my goal.
FOCUSED ACTION - My commitment level was so high that I was accepted into this 9 month course, 4 weeks into the training, but even if I hadn’t been accepted, I had a backup plan and nothing was going to stop me.
MONITOR YOUR THOUGHTS – I was so determined that nothing would stand in my way in order to reach this goal – including the occasional thoughts that “I didn’t know enough”, “I wasn’t good enough”, “I didn’t have enough experience”, I even had some funny thoughts that said, “I don’t have the right clothes to be an inspirational leader”! One even funnier thought was that “I couldn’t do this because I am a woman”, as womens natural energy is more loving – not at all like that male competitive type business energy (that I assumed Tony had) – boy was I wrong!
MAKE A PUBLIC COMMITMENT – I’m sure he has a strong competitive nature inside somewhere, but what instantly struck me, is that Tony is the most loving business minded man I have ever met. His passion, dedicated contribution and love of people is the driving force behind everything he does! And, when I publicly stated I wanted to be like Tony, I suddenly found that I felt good enough, worthy enough, strong enough, powerful enough, experienced enough, intelligent enough and many other positive “enough’s”. Now I HAVE to reach my goal.
MAKE MASSIVE CHANGES – What got me to this point? Well, I raised my standards for my life. I started listening to empowering speakers on audios and videos instead of the negative comments from other people. I completely stopped taking what my mother said, to heart (she had such a unique way of making me feel bad without even realizing what she was saying). I completely stopped allowing other people to tell negative stories around me and only asked them to speak to me if they had something useful to share. These were things I’d wanted to do for years and years and just hadn’t committed to making the change because I was worried it would lose friendships and create unrest.
COMMAND RESPECT – At the time I didn’t realize that expecting more of other people is one of the most empowering ways to command respect (yes, respect is something we must command) and it had the pleasant side effect of changing other peoples outlook and focus too, well at least when they are around me.
RAISE YOUR STANDARDS – You know, our job as friends, partners, lovers, children, parents, relatives, co-workers etc is to see MORE in people than what they see in themselves. Ask them to “raise their standards” of the way they communicate about their life … and sometimes we do have to DEMAND it, like a parent would DEMAND a child to “get off the road”. Demanding more of the people we come in contact with, is one of the best things we can do for them … other people might allow and even encourage them to keep their small minded thoughts because then they can feel OK about their own.
SPEAK UP – I even though that I shouldn’t be harsh when I spoke to these individuals, because one of my role models, “Jesus”, spoke in quiet tones (or so we might think). But even Jesus raised his voice when he cast the sinners out of the temple…and that is what YOU must do too. Raise your voice and CAST OUT those thoughts, words and deeds that are disturbing your place of worship, whether that be in your home, at work, your meditation area, your backyard, your community … raise your voice and demand that others show a better side of themselves … and of course, lead by example and show them how it’s done.
BE UNSTOPPABLE – Never let your small thoughts distract you from a world where you can be, do and have “whatever you want” simply by choosing it! And DON’T think you ONLY have to choose want you want (commonly known as setting your goals) once at the beginning of each New Year – you continue making the same CHOICE every month, every day, every hour, every moment and allow everything you think, say and do be a reflection of that choice.
Can you see what you’ve already created for your life
by what you’ve thought about,
what you’ve said and
what you’ve done?
MAKE BETTER CHOICES – Whatever you are thinking, saying and doing NOW is a reflection of your past choices. NEVER let anything stand in your way of making a better choice. Don’t let what’s happening INSIDE you stand in your way – and don’t let what’s happening OUTSIDE you stand in your way. Because YOU have the power to make a brand new decision NOW if you don’t like the reflection you’re currently seeing.
YOU’RE RIGHT! – Some people might think that they don’t and can’t create their own lives – and if YOU think that too, then you’re right. Your mind accepts everything you tell it.
But let’s just try these questions on for size -
1. What have you allowed to happen in your life that you didn’t STOP from happening (sometimes known as enabling)?
2. Have you allowed dis-empowering thoughts about yourself or others to enter into your mind (sometimes known as negative thinking)?
3. Have you allowed other people to disturb you from believing you can reach a big goal (sometimes known as thwarted intention)?
4. Have you allowed yourself to speak disrespectfully of others (sometimes known as “tall poppy syndrome” or gossip)?
5. Have you allowed yourself to regularly indulge in things that are clearly NOT in your best interest (sometimes known as addictions)?
What things have you allowed into your life, that are simply NOT GOOD ENOUGH FOR YOU anymore?
Anthony Robbins says, “one of the best things you can do for yourself is Raise Your Standards!”
A NEW WAY TO SET YOUR GOALS – Many people set new goals each New Year and that is a good thing, but, if it’s something you’ve done in the past and it hasn’t worked very well for you, or you want to DO something different this year, why not have a go at this instead …
STEP 1
STEP 2
Then say out loud several times, “these things are NOT OK to accept into my life anymore!” and name each one of them as you’re doing it.
STEP 3
Get MAD with yourself for allowing these things to happen, to you and inside of you.
STEP 4
Then do something you have never done before – run faster than you’ve ever run before, yell louder than you’ve ever yelled before, roll your fists into a ball and pound on your bed for a longer time than you’ve ever done before. Push yourself to the point of NO RETURN…when you know that YOU will NO LONGER ACCEPT these dis-empowering things from happening inside you and outside of you.
STEP 5
When you’re done, when you’ve demanded ALL the emotion that you can to STOP things from happening to you and inside you, RELAX and KNOW … your new goals can be written from an entirely fresh perspective NOW.
REVELATIONS – I laugh as I realize that answering these few simple questions TRUTHFULLY were ALL that it took to move me from being a single mother with a pleasant enough life to being a woman with a grand vision for what is possible in her own life and the lives of others, and more importantly, someone who is looked up to for advice and copied as a role model. That wasn’t my initial goal, just a pleasant side effect of “going for what I truly wanted”, no matter how ridiculous it might sound, how big it might seem, how silly it might look or how stupid I might feel.
Maybe you would like to make some new decisions too!
And take a NEW action to cement that goal in place!
As Tony Robbins said, “the most important rules I ever adopted to help me in achieving my goals were those I learned from a very successful man who taught me to first, write down the goal, and then to never leave the site of setting a goal without first taking some form of positive action towards its attainment”.
HAPPY NEW YEAR
